St. Maximilian Kolbe once said, “God sends us friends to be our firm support in the whirlpool of struggle. In the company of friends, we will find strength to attain our sublime ideal.”
I believe everyone comes into our life for a reason. I am reminded of that when I hear from someone who I have impacted for the good, and there is no doubt they have impacted me.
It’s interesting how it takes a life changing event for people to reconnect with one another. I am sure you know what I am talking about: maybe a funeral, illness, wedding, birth of a child, or a new job, whatever it is, you pick up from where you left off, as if time was standing still.
I have a friend from grade school who sent me a note that talked about her belief on why God brought us into each other’s lives at the age of 10 years old. She reminded me of what my family and I meant to her during a difficult time in her childhood. This friend had lost her father and her mother wasn’t well. Her note, said “You pushed me to believe in myself – in music, cheerleading and social skills, you changed me for the better.”
I saw so much in her that she didn’t see in herself. Obviously, there were so many reasons God brought us together to help make one another better versions of ourselves. I have wonderful memories of this friend and in case she is wondering I can say with 100% certainty she helped mold me as well. It was through our laughter and struggles that we let each other in and shared so much good.
We all have friends who have come into our lives and helped us in ways we can never thank them enough for. They saw all of the good in us and helped us be more than we thought we could be. I think part of that is our willingness to let them impact us and allow ourselves to evolve. Evolve into better people that can go out and spread goodness within the world.
Some people may have come and gone. Others we may think were gone, but because of a life altering event, we were brought together again. Then, there are those that remain in our lives and are there for a lifetime.
Regardless, we get so busy in our own lives and we just keep moving forward. Before we know it, something reminds of us of them. Maybe it’s a song, movie, book, musical, those jeans that come back in style, a perfect sunny day, or a life changing event. I believe this is God’s purpose, to bring friends into our lives and allow them to fulfill us in a way we had no idea they could.
So, what exactly is the friend that St. Maximilian Kolbe is talking about. I believe it is a friend who is with us when we are not just laughing but also struggling, they help us to find strength and to inspire us to believe we can find beauty in our struggle.
I believe a cherished friend, no matter the age or gender, is someone who helps us to be kinder, more caring, more accepting and wiser.
They help us to to believe we can always learn from others. They may challenge us to expand outside of our comfort zones. They may ask us to try things we didn’t think we were capable of doing and encourage us to be more open minded, to flourish. They help us mature emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.
We may not like what they say to us at times but we must be patient with them and trust what they are saying is coming from a place of goodness and love. Once we realize we have this friend or friends we have to let them help us, let them in, listen to them and allow the change in us to happen.
To all of my friends out there, you are such an inspiration to me in each of your own ways. I love how you continue to push me to be a better person. I enjoy laughing and crying with you. I also want you to each know you have changed me for the better and helped me see the beauty in my struggles.